Eye Contact

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Going to physical therapy reminds me of the nail salon. The manicure clients don’t look at each other and prefer to gaze into space, pore through a People magazine, or stare at the TV mounted high on the wall.

At physical therapy, it’s much the same, except for the magazines. There is no TV and we are too much busy to read. Our determined looks and occasional winces remind me we are all in this together. Everybody is trying to do something physically difficult if not impossible.

The husky fortyish guy prone on the table with his knee wrapped in a huge white bandage looks like he’s about to break into a sweat when all he is doing is lifting his leg a couple of inches. The old woman across from me furrows her brow as she oh-so-slowly climbs up and down a little step-stool.

I make faces when my therapist forces my fingers down toward my palm to encourage my hand to make a fist. “Just two more times,” he says and pushes hard on my knuckles. “It’s hardest the first time. It gets better after this.”

The woman at the next table with her hand wrapped in an ice pack says “That’s not true.” Not what I want to hear. I just can’t do it and it hurts. But I can’t scream here. Nobody else is doing that. I can’t cry either.

The little boy across the room looks about eight or nine and he is doing the exact same hand exercises I am. All by himself. He looks serious but he’s not crying or wincing. I can be as brave as this little kid.

I catch his eye, smile and ask, “What did you do?”

“I fell off my bike,” he says with a shy smile, then goes back to work.

I’ve been coming here twice a week for over a month. In all that time, I engaged a couple of other patients in a sentence or two, but the kid is the only one I’ve asked about his injury. Now I want to poll every patient in the room: “What did you do?” I want to tell them I broke my hand. I don’t know why. Maybe I think I can forge some kind of bond over our shared pain and misery. Maybe I think we can encourage each other.

Fast forward a few years, and I’m doing therapy again, this time after shoulder surgery. Different, smaller office, same silence. No TV but they do have magazines nobody reads. Everybody’s working hard. I still try to make eye contact with the other patients but I quickly see how hard that is while you’re trying to focus on a nearly impossible task. I say a silent prayer for us all and get back to work.

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5 thoughts on “Eye Contact

  1. I’m a Chatty Cathy @ PT – after every set of exercises, we have to walk around & shake our muscles out, sooo, everyone is free game to me! Sneak a look at me, I got you – eye contact made! Wearing a PSU, Eagles, or Phillies tshirt – you’re ripe for a chat-up! Wearing an out-of-state shirt? I’ll call you out. lol

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  2. I have the same experience at my therapist’s office. We walk in. We walk out. And we carefully do not look at each other. Why is there such shame around the need to explore our pain in an effort to better ourselves?

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  3. Saying “hi” to strangers in the street has changed since I got married. Seriously! I don’t think people are looking at my third left finger to see if I’m available and feel more relaxed when theytold find I am not, so what is it? Maybe I feel better in the world. Maybe people smiling back make the difference. When I’ve told people about this, they tell me I’m not alone. What is your experience?

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